How to Find Your Ideal Partner?
How would you describe the ideal girl of your dreams? “Oh, she has got to be beautiful with a nice figure, having a sweet and sexy voice, cheerful, gentle, considerate, kind-hearted, understanding, independent, musically inclined, share a common interest of mine, hmm… knows how to prepare nice food and…
OK, that's enough. Do you think such a perfect person actually exists? Maybe. But you must realize that you may have to temper your expectations in order to find a partner. Still, if you focus on what is most important to you, you'll likely find someone that will make you happy.
Get to know yourself. How can you expect someone else to know you when you don't know who you are and what you're looking for?
Think about what you really want. Are you looking for someone to date or to marry at this point in your life? These partners can have much different qualities. In particular, looks and adventure seem to go with dating, while maturity, stability, and honesty go with marriage.
Ask yourself, “Have I really ever tried to pursue happiness?" Instead of always picking on your partner’s faults and making life unhappy for both, have you tried looking at the other, beautiful side of them, their beautiful qualities? Appreciating what you have already got? Tried improving on yourself instead, to becoming a better lover; a more ideal lover? Willing to open up yourself, giving both yourself and others a chance? Remember, what you expect of yours or your future partner is equally what he or she expects of you.
Think of a relationship as a long-term investment rather than a game. It is something which both of you will have to genuinely think through and plan for. This should help you to take your partner more seriously.
Make sure you are settling down with someone who has the qualities you seek in a lifelong. Just because you enjoy dating someone does not mean you will be happy marrying them.
Finding your soul mate online
is a wondrous thing; however, there is the potential for danger. While you have
access to a wide variety of people, you also have the impending complication of
meeting those who are not what they seem to be--there are some tips of the
trade, though, to help you become more discerning with your choices. These tips
can help you stay safe and stay away from men and women who are not what you’re
Tip One: Start Slowly. There are all kinds of people on the Love Empire; not all of these people, however, will be right for you. Take your time--if you meet someone and start up a conversation, proceed with discretion. The person at the other end may not be who they claim to be; take your time and watch for inconsistencies or odd behavior. If something bothers you, simply walk away. Do not rush into any relationship without thinking first.
Tip Two: Protect Your Identity. One of the benefits of dating online is that you can get to know someone based solely upon their personality and not deal with the more social conscious > real world. It is up to you to decide when and how you reveal who you really are--be careful, however. If someone receives your personal information, they could use it against you. If a member tries to pressure you into giving out your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information, then walk away.
Tip Three: Use Common Sense. When speaking to someone through the Love Empire, do not throw good judgment away simply because this is an online service. What may sound wonderful on the screen can be masking something not so wonderful in reality. Use caution and do not fall in love with the first profile you read. Take your time and go through all of your potential choices. Then, after you’ve researched enough, go from there. It is a common occurrence for people to “fall in love” after only one conversation. Do not do this! Retain your common sense and view online dating as you view real-world dating. You do not have to love every profile you read.
Tip Four: Request A Photo. If you meet someone, chat with them, and see the beginning of a relationship forming, then you might want to request a photo. Often, this can tell you more about the person than any email or instant message. First of all, it can keep them from lying about their looks; secondly, you will know if you’re attracted to them in the physical sense; finally, if they continually refuse to send a photo, there might be a reason other than embarrassment. Proceed carefully.
Tip Five: Pay Attention. This is, possibly, the most important tip you could follow. In an email, any one can sound wonderful--in real life, it’s much more difficult. When you are becoming involved with someone on the Love Empire, watch for ‘red flags’, or odd behavior. For example, if during an online session, your date suddenly becomes angry or aggressive toward you and then, won’t explain why, you should take this into consideration. If one sentence could upset him/her in such a way, it might be cause to worry. Also, pay attention to any attempts to pressure or control you. For instance, if your date is constantly making demeaning comments about you, there is a strong chance that he/she is trying to manipulate you into feeling inferior; therefore, you become an easier target to control. Finally, watch out for inconsistencies with information that your date provides you or evasive answers to questions.